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Educate without hitting
The fact that almost all those who defended the scourge acknowledged receiving it seems to confirm one of the purposes of this punishment that psychologists warn
Many of the 296 comments that yesterday was the report, entitled The cheek hurts but does not work, defended their use. What was striking was the virulence of many, as if the approach of psychologists and educators that this method is not an appropriate tool to educate and it is not effective long-term attack them intimately. Thus, several disqualified directly to the experts and challenged them to tackle real children. Many agreed in stating that they had received their whipping or slapping and were not traumatized, thanks to it adults educated and profit and permissiveness and the parents' current buenrrollismo liberals is that younger generations that rude and desnortados end up abusing their parents.
It seems obvious, but we must remember that many people, even the current generation of parents have been raised without cuffs or whips and also, to use expressions that I have read, 'have done well', among which I include . Or that in countries paradigmatic of good education and good school performance, as the Nordic countries, physical punishment is prohibited for years (albeit with great information and awareness campaigns), but children have become a Kafir. Even as some comments to my previous post, are able to play without shouting or making noise! Finally, there are other ways to maintain discipline and respect in addition to hitting, but can be more labor intensive and require more self-control and patience.
Hitting children is considered an aggression. Paste the animals is considered cruel. Hitting children 'is for her sake' (Council of Europe Campaign) is precisely the fact that almost all those who defended the scourge acknowledged receiving it seems to confirm one of the purposes of this punishment that psychologists warn. 'You take it as a role model as a valid and acceptable to raise your children', explains Manuel Gámez Guadix, professor of psychology at the Autonomous University of Madrid, which conducted the study on the prevalence of physical punishment of children in the family quoted in the report.
Not always. My partner, who suffered slapped by a parent of before, rejects outright physical violence against children. 'It can happen, "says Gamez,' but statistically it is more likely that parents who used to do the same with your children is what they have learned, and it is a way of justifying the behavior of their parents'. Otherwise is to accept, as in the case of my partner, his father was not perfect and had no right to hit, with conflict and the emotional burden involved.
Another controversial point of Aunión reportage is that experts question the long-term efficacy of physical punishment to educate a child. The short-term efficacy is clear: 'Achieve immediate compliance, but then the child gets used, so that parents have to increase the frequency to achieve the objective of obedience, "says Gamez.
The effectiveness, I suppose, means each depending on the objective that has been raised when taught right. A friend with four children, aged 10, I explained that he had used the whip on your ass' only when they are compromised and their reasoning ability is low. As I leave birthday. Whenever I hit them I have explained why and I've asked forgiveness for them to be very small. " That is, to prevent specific acts impulsively as crossing the street, probably to be effective. Although according to Gámez, if curiosity is very large, as in the case of attractive outlet holes, sometimes the result is contrary to expectation, because the child does is bring out the hidden behavior of the adult who knows it will stick.
Another friend tells me that the only two cheeks that has taken her son, three years have been in situations where that has got mad and for conduct that is unacceptable, that is to hit him or his wife. This parent believes that they have not been effective, because the child in full tantrum, or have noticed, while he would have made you feel bad.
But removing the lashes at risk or loss of nerve, any parent, but do not share, you can understand, is the effective punishment to educate? Do you get that children are more obedient and behave better?
Work of Murray A. Straus, a sociology professor and codirector of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire, based on data from many scientific studies on the effects of physical punishment, should 'not hitting ever. " 'The benefits of avoiding it are many, but for parents is virtually impossible to perceive by watching their children, "he says. "Parents may perceive the beneficial effect of a blow (without seeing the other equally effective alternatives), but have no way of looking a year or more later to see if there are harmful side effects for having hit the child to correct bad behavior '.
'There is little scientific evidence that physical punishment improves children's behavior long-Paste your children is give them a bad example (Council of Europe Campaign) term. There is substantial scientific evidence that physical punishment does more, not less, likely to be defiant and aggressive children in the future. There is clear scientific evidence that physical punishment places children at risk of negative consequences, including increased mental health problems, "says Elizabeth T. Gershoff, a psychologist with a doctorate in Child Development and Family Relations from the University of Texas, a 2008 work in which he analyzed hundreds of studies published in the last century on punishment in fields such as psychology, medicine, education, work social or sociology, entitled Report on Physical Punishment in the United States: What Research Tells Us About Its Effects on Children (Report on the punishment in the United States: what research tells us about its effects on children.)
According to Gershoff, 'recent studies worldwide, including Canada, China, India, Italy, Kenya, Norway, Philippines, Thailand, Singapore and the United States, corporal punishment was associated with more physical and verbal abuse, fighting, bullying , antisocial behavior and behavior problems in general. The conclusion to be drawn from these studies is that, contrary to the objectives of the parents when they apply, the more parents use corporal punishment, more disobedient and aggressive will your children. "