How can we forget the abuse from a loved one, how to forgive and heal the pain, no matter how the heart is filled with love and good to him ? One of our facebook friends asked this question. Here are some replies - do you have any other ideas to add to this?
Shoumava: Yoga helps you to rise over your memories good or bad and makes you mentally strong you it will certainly help you forget and make the other person regret it is definitely a way out of all pains
Victoria: Maybe is most difficult to forgive oneself for leting the loved one hurt us, than to forgive the other, try to filll your innerself with love for yourself in your meditations. Try saying i´m sorry, i love you, fron your heart chakra... and ...dont be a victim!!! if you stop being a victim no one can hurt you! best luck, love, and brightness for your life. Namaste.
Anne: We can never "forget" but we can forgive which will then begin to heal your pain. Practice some Anahat chakra meditation to bring out the qualities of the heart and anulom villom pranayam to balance/purify your emotions/intellect.
Harte: Never forgive seek revenge...
Revenge will glorify you....
Cheers!!
Victoria: @harte, are you serious?
Victoria: “If anyone speaks ill of you, praise him always. If anyone injures you, serve him nicely. If anyone persecutes you, help him in all possible ways. You will attain immense strength. You will control anger and pride. You will enjoy peace, poise and serenity. You will become divine.” Swami Sivananda. ~SC (posted here on sept 14th)
Sara: Revenge is not Yours to play with @harte be careful..............
Anusha: Just forgive him. You know that your love is pure and if he still doesn't understand he is not fit for your love. But do not seek revenge or anything as it will stain your heart which has loved him wholly and which has to be pure for loving truly. I am sure he'll understand that and come back. There is no problem in your love, it is his problem to worry...
Keerthana: also experience the pain inside you , just experience. masters say, if you are in pain,, sink yourself deeply inside it and the pain will go. and similar pains will never effect you. so just do not run away, be in the same feel, you will get your answers when God decides to answer you.
Shohreh: the time solves every things
Harte: @Victoria, Yes I am serious--Lets us give every man his dues good fro good bad for bad...Law of Proportionate return....
This is how life goes on....Vengeance gives inner tranquility....
Niranjan: Krishna says very beautifully in the Gita "Dont hurt others and dont allow others to hurt you" - what the latter part of this teaching means is that we need to be internally strong and wise enough not to let the events of life to overshado......w our peace of mind. Just we need to ensure that we take care of our physical well being in case the abuse is physical by resorting to whatever legal/spiritual means. After the same is taken care of just walk ahead......life is like a train journey...good scenes come, not so good scenes come, but you be steady in YOGA. - Sri Sri Ravishankar
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Niranjan: To come out of trauma, I sincerely advice this person to do the basic course of The Art of Living where they teach a breathing technique known as Sudarshana Kriya. This is now being recognized globally as a great tool to relieve people of stress and trauma. It is becoming a global standard for addressing stress related issues
Nelly: Sorry Sarah, who happened to you? It must be something really bad or am I wrong? Sorry
Shoumava: Yoga helps you to rise over your memories good or bad and makes you mentally strong you it will certainly help you forget and make the other person regret it is definitely a way out of all pains
Westley: Forgiveness is a process that takes time and understanding the feelings involved. You need to keep in mind that the process is for you. It does not mean that the other doesn't have to pay their dues. I recommend Dr. R. D. Enright's work on forgiveness, especially his "Forgivenes is a Choice".
Ong: Sara,please do give yourself some time, as 'time heals the pain'. Take care & good luck!
Sara: Thank you for not enough ;;
I already try to make my being whole is filled with love and tolerance with all,
Therefore I can't express to you my love and thanks
thank you all ~$~
Sarala: it is very very painful..........and can not express in words and share with any one. please have patience .
Keerthana: forgeting the situation and just letting it go off and waiting for the time in future when you feel that you were silly is one way. this way is PROLOOOONGing and gives temporary relief but makes you feel bad whenever you are reminded of the... bitter incident. what Oneness University teaches is what i already said .. this is what SriRavishankarji also told in his knowledge sheets once but he is not teaching his followers to experience that. he teaches sudharshana kriya and make you relieved everytime you remember and feel bad.. in oneness, they never want you to forget. they ask you to stay in the same feel... experience it the way you eat neem leaf(you dont lke it but still you wanna eat it because it s gonna cure you from diseases, still you are not supposed to gulp it, but chew it, mix with saliva, eat it.. to make it work.)
JUST ACCEPT THE SITUATION AS IT IS~JUST ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE IN PAIN. DO NOT THINK YOU ARE "NOT SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THIS". JUST ACCEPT IT. STAY IN THE SAME STATE OF MIND. SINK SINK SINK... EXPERIENCE IT (if you cry , you will be not experiencing it.. bt you are escaping and thats why you feel relaxed after crying though you have nt got any solution) Stand firm, continue to experience. seek the god, just dedicate the pain and your helplessness to the God. and finally ask God to take care of you and see what miracle happens. you will just forget what pain you had.
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